puppy phil
09-14-2010, 10:38 AM
Good cop/bad cop?
When it comes to being verbally humiliated I've always found that a soft, or even sympathetic, voice is far more effective than anything else.
If someone starts yelling or swearing at me I just switch off. It's an automatic reaction and nothing to do with being in or out of any sub/dom headspace; my brain simply decides nothing is being said that's worth listening to.
But the soft voice disarms all resistance. It seduces and draws me in. It's sexy and arousing in itself. I can't not pay attention to it. Ignoring it just isn't possible.
I remember absolutely squirming with shame and humiliation when a stunning blonde Mistress I visited fairly regularly, without repeating Herself, spoke softly into my ear for five full minutes, and gently pointed out some painful home truths and told me the way things were. Her soft, silky, seductive, voice slipped past all defences and She completely tore me to pieces. I'd never felt so wretched or humiliated. In the end She had me agreeing with Her that I deserved to be punished severely just for being me.
After that I took verbal humiliation as the starting point for our sessions, and with other Mistresses subsequently, and had some of the most intensely stimulating sessions ever.
It helps if the content of the verbal humiliation is relevant so I always made sure I provided the Mistresses I saw with plenty of ammunition (the Trust thing!) - and because of the reasons I developed into a sub there was plenty of it!
When it comes to being verbally humiliated I've always found that a soft, or even sympathetic, voice is far more effective than anything else.
If someone starts yelling or swearing at me I just switch off. It's an automatic reaction and nothing to do with being in or out of any sub/dom headspace; my brain simply decides nothing is being said that's worth listening to.
But the soft voice disarms all resistance. It seduces and draws me in. It's sexy and arousing in itself. I can't not pay attention to it. Ignoring it just isn't possible.
I remember absolutely squirming with shame and humiliation when a stunning blonde Mistress I visited fairly regularly, without repeating Herself, spoke softly into my ear for five full minutes, and gently pointed out some painful home truths and told me the way things were. Her soft, silky, seductive, voice slipped past all defences and She completely tore me to pieces. I'd never felt so wretched or humiliated. In the end She had me agreeing with Her that I deserved to be punished severely just for being me.
After that I took verbal humiliation as the starting point for our sessions, and with other Mistresses subsequently, and had some of the most intensely stimulating sessions ever.
It helps if the content of the verbal humiliation is relevant so I always made sure I provided the Mistresses I saw with plenty of ammunition (the Trust thing!) - and because of the reasons I developed into a sub there was plenty of it!